Help - How do I get my libido back?

by K

I'm 52 - I had my uterus removed when I was 34. After reading one of your articles, I've been very fortunate not to have menopause early. When I was 50 I had a yeast infection and noticed my vagina to be very tight and sex was painful. I cleared that up and the next month I had another infection, this time my husband didn't get it so, I went to the doctors. I had a bacterial infection. It took three doses of the medication before it cleared up.

After that, sex was still painful so, the doctor ordered an ultra sound. They also, gave me some gel to use during sex. The ultra sound showed one ovary shriveled up and the other one had a large mass on it. So, I was sent to another doctor and then scheduled for surgery. I had never spent any time researching menopause because I didn't think that I would go through it because of the hysterectomy. The doctor didn't explain anything to me either. The surgery went well (one of the fallopian tubes had closed itself off and had filled with fluid).

Around seven months off for recovery, and then trying to have sex again, and it was still painful. A friend told me of this web site and another one and I started to find out what was going on. So, I have been using progesterone cream, estriol cream, and DHEA cream for 12 months. I am happy to say the hot flashes and night sweats have stopped and I notice a difference emotionally. (I didn't have any symptoms before surgery).

However, I am struggling with water retention, weight gain, and no libido. I don't know what else to do. I just started using half the estriol to see if that helps with the weight. Do you have any suggestions?

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Nov 30, 2009
Return of the libido
by: Anonymous

Have you tried testosterone replacement? That's the hormone that really revs up the libido in both men and women. See the new book, just out: Everything you ever wanted to know about bio-identical hormone replacement; Foreword by Suzanne Somers, who calls it the "bio-identical hormone reference bible."

Feb 18, 2010
Have you tried DHEA?
by: Barbara

Studies confirm that DHEA helps women with libido issues by raising their testosterone levels. Libido increases and women report actually chasing their husbands around! Also, as an added benefit, a DHEA study showed that it can reduce abdominal fat. Women in the study reported losing over 10% of their visceral fat (men lost 7.4%). You can find a really good brand at

Feb 23, 2010
How do I get my libido back?
by: Wray

Hi K. It's strange no one told you about menopause, as a hyst causes 'surgical' menopause, you should have been warned. Estriol gel or cream is often given for an inflamed, dry vagina, but many find progesterone as effective. Although estriol is regarded as a safe oestrogen, please see this.

I'm not in favour of any oestrogen, we have more than enough oestrogen mimics to contend with, please see web page. I am not in favour of DHEA either, it's use can lead to both cysts and cancer. It follows the androgen route in our bodies, ultimately making testosterone, which in turn can be converted into oestrogen. Both these hormones suppress progesterone.
We have many men using progesterone to increase libido. It stimulates the production of nitric oxide, much the same as Viagra does, but with no adverse side affects. Progesterone is also an excellent diuretic, so much so it's now used for traumatic brain injury to prevent any oedema that forms.

You could have insulin resistance, so please have a vitamin D test done. For more info on IR please see this web page. And for info on vitamin D see here. Take care, Wray

Feb 25, 2010
Have you tried DHEA?
by: Wray

Hi Barbara. Unfortunately DHEA can cause cysts and cancer in women, as it raises both testosterone and oestrogen. Unless you're talking about 7-keto DHEA which does not convert to those hormones?
Progesterone is helpful in raising libido as it stimulates nitric oxide production. NO is a vasodilator, so is progesterone, which means blood flows freely, vital for libido. Take care, Wray

Apr 30, 2010
Try Twist 25 DHEA cream
by: Anonymous

Twist 25 DHEA Cream is a 5% transdermal DHEA supplement cream patented as a female sexual enhancer.

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