Ready to lose it at 43!

I have had an ongoing battle with erratic periods for the last 3-4 years. My mother went through menopause at 36 and now the doctors will not believe that I could be doing the same because of my age. I have started "self-doctoring" because they just want to put me on the pill to regulate my periods.

I have had severe reactions to the pill before and refuse to take it (psychotic). I was going 2-3 days without bleeding, then heavy flooding with severe cramping and clots for 1-2 days, a couple of days without, then bleeding, etc. The cycle continues. I started Natpro (3months or so) and it seems to help some with all of my symptoms (estrogen dominance) except the erratic bleeding. I try to take it everyday, but I am not sure how much to take. If I miss a day, I bleed the next day guaranteed and I also have to wear protection everyday because I am spotting and bleeding so often now. And am wondering if I should quit, increase, etc.. I think I take 1/4 to 1/2 tsp a day. I don't want all of the other symptoms (anger and stomach weight gain,etc.) to come back as they were beginning to get better. My husband is frustrated as well (doesn't believe I bleed this often) as this is effecting him also. Any advice would be great!