Nervous Breakdown

by Peg
(IL)

Wray, I just wanted to fill you in on my story. I did not have my hysterectomy. Two weeks before I was due to have it, my husband moved out unexpectedly (to me) while I was babysitting our grandson. I was in total shock and disbelief. I planned on going through with the surgery, but the closer it came to it, I started my period the week before. I called My husband the Saturday before the surgery, and cried for him to please come home and help me through this. He never responded. The morning went on, and I ended up cutting my wrists. I was so overcome with grief, and was just comepletely despondent. After who knows how long of screaming, crying, and being hysterical. (I took our picture off the wall to feel like he was holding me)I finally called my sister. Her and my neice came over. They said I was just like a baby, crying for my mom and dad who are both passed on. I took a zanax, and walked around with my Natpro all morning. I kept putting it on. I finally fell asleep. When I woke up, my kids were here, and I started to have another breakdown. I was shaking like I was freezing, Crying, screaming.The gave me two zanex, and I screamed get my cream. My neice later told me , my son just squirted a big handful in my hand and I rubbed it all over my legs, arms, face and neck. They were beside themselves too. They made the desision to admit me to a hospital, and I was taken by ambulance to the local hospital. I was then transfered to a medical facility and kept for 9 days. My anti depressants were changed and my zanex increased. I was also given a sleeping pill. I had another breakdown while I was in there and had to be sedated. I kept my Natpro with me at all times, and when I would get anxious, I put some on. I told all the nurses about your website, and they were very interested in the lack of progesterone and what it can do to a body. It always calmed me down. I am home, off work, and still nothing from my husband. The support men need to give their wives, is so important to healing. I have been cleaning, moving furniture and making the house "my house "with painting, and doing what I have always wanted to do.It does not take the place of love and support. I just want men to know, please stick by your wives. Lack of Progesterone needs to be spoke about on ABC, NBC, and every mainstream news media. If more people understood what the lack of it can do to a body, maybe testing for it, would save alot of needless medical tests, and divorces.

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Nov 13, 2012
I feel for you...
by: Karenina

Oh my poor Peg...I felt so sad for you when I read your comment...I wish I was not so far away from you otherwise I would be there with you now giving you a massive warm hug. I nearly lost my partner at one stage myself but the natpro progesterone cream saved my relationship with him but only just in time! I, too, wish more men knew about the sort of problems women go through with their hormones...there are men who suffer too.

Keep using your p. cream and plenty of it too! I am here for you if you ever want someone to talk to. Wray is a star and she will be able to help you too. Take care of yourself. Hugs to you.. Karenina

Nov 13, 2012
Nervous Breakdown
by: Wray

Hi Peg Thank you so much for letting me know this, with all you've been through I'm surprised you bothered, I so appreciate it. I still can't get my head around it all, what horrors it must have been. I just wish like you, it need never have been. There is so much ignorance about our hormones and what they can do to either worsen us, or make us better. Like you I wish it was broadcast far and wide. I hope your wrists are getting better, dab some progesterone on the wound as it will help heal them. I'm so glad it helped calm you, it is so good for that. I often rub it on when I feel stressed, I carry some with me wherever I go. Thank you for telling the nurses about progesterone, hopefully they too will spread the word. I also hope your message about support from husbands is spread too, it is needed badly. So many marriages break up when a woman is going through Peri-menopause and Menopause. Too many. Even severe PMS can break one up, and all for a little help from progesterone. I'm so happy you're making the house your home, that in itself will be very healing. But of course it doesn't take the place of love and support. Do let us know how you get on, as we're all here to support you. Take care Wray


Nov 13, 2012
I feel for you...
by: Wray

Hi Karenina You're such a darling offering hugs! Even if a virtual one, it's always so welcome. I can always feel the ones you send me! Take care and hugs to you too. Wray

Nov 14, 2012
my heart breaks for Peg!!
by: Dixie in Florida

Dear Peg, I am so very very very sorry you had to experience such a loss of support just when you needed it the most!!! Shame on your husband... nothing excuses that kind of behavior! My thoughts and prayers are with you and I am happy to hear that you are turning your house into Peg's house!!! Oddly enough, my sister in law (husband's sister)was having a rough time with her hormones and had the surgery- her husband left her within a couple of weeks.. .it almost killed her mentionally and emotionally but she prevailed!! She also told her little brother (my husband) that when my time comes (late 40's/early 50's) he needs to make sure that he is more supportive than he thinks himself capable... well, the time is NOW and he is doing his best... he's on board for the salvia hormone testing and he knows its not 'all in my head'. But I think a lot of men don't know what to do- its not something they can just FIX... its trial and error and ups and downs. Again, I am so sorry you had to go through this terrible sequence of events, but I'm happy you didn't have the surgery... and I'm thrilled that you lived to tell this very important story. Much love... Dixie

Nov 14, 2012
Bless you!
by: Karenina

Ah bless you too Wray!

Take care and lots of hugs to you too! Karenina x

Nov 15, 2012
Nervous Breakdown
by: Peg

Thank you all so much for the thoughts and the support. I went to my family Dr. yesterday. He prescribed the meds I was on in the hospital, wrote a letter to the court to postpone any legal affairs due to me not being medically acceptable to deal with legal matters in my condition. I have an appointment Friday with the Dr. I saw while in the Hospital. We will see how this all helps. I wake up at 230 am and am wide awake. so I surf the web, and check in here alot! The bedroom is all painted, looks and feels serene, and peacefull. the empty den is now my plant room/ office,and library. :) the living room has all been moved around, pictures and all .Painting the livingroom is next on the list, but I can come into the bedroom and it is MINE. ;) sweet dreams everyone. Time is healing wounds, but I would much rather have Mike home and loving. Take care love to you all. Peg

Nov 17, 2012
Nervous Breakdown
by: Wray

Hi Peg I'm so amazed at your resilience, but it's wonderful to hear how you're painting and reorganising your house. I do agree with you, far better to have someone you love around, but at least you are doing something to help yourself. Please consider looking through our page on Anxiety. It gives a list of nutrients which all help depression, help calm us down etc, far safer than drugs. Maybe when you feel up to it, you could make the transition to these instead. I loved your poem so much, I've asked our webmaster to put it on our Menopause page, as I feel it should be read by as many women as possible, hopefully men too. It's not up yet, but I hope soon. Please let us all know how you get on. Take care and love to you too, Wray

Nov 17, 2012
So proud of you...
by: Karenina

Hi Peg

I am so proud of you! You have done so well to have decorated your bedroom and having made the empty room useful for yourself. I am really impressed!

Just know I am here for you. Hang in there...you will come through this difficult and painful time in your life.

Love to you too...big warm hugs. Take care. Karenina

Nov 17, 2012
nervouss breakdown
by: Peg

Hi Everyone! just wanted to fill you all in on how I am coping. I saw my family Dr and the psychiatrist this week. they upped my effexor to 150 mg after I am on it one week at the 75 mg. This is to keep me stable since we work 20 ft apart. I am still off work until at least 12/12/12 and possibly longer. He has been texting me, mean then nice, then asking for pics. I am so torn, because I want this marriage and I want him to be the husband he used to be, but I just questioning... I miss him , I want sex so freaking bad with him, but I do not want to be a booty call. When I miss him, I get oput the bible and read, and pray and cry to God for help in healing the whole family. He is supposed to come do stuff around the house today, clean out the gutters, take off the pool pump motor, drain the pump, ect. stuff I can't do. I want him, however I am afraid to be alone with him, do to giving in. This is so hard. We have a court date on Nov 28th , for a reconsideration for counceling, however the dr.s are writing letters to postpone court due to my unstableness . This is another reason I dont want to have sex with him. They can say I am stable enough to be around him in bed, so... I am in a real hard place right now. But, My 2 year old granddaughter and my son spent the night with me last night and we had a blast. I watch my 4 month old grandson 4 days a week, and he is wonderful, and I see my 2 1/2 year old grandson alot also. They are my joy. :) I am so Glad you liked the poem! I just poured all the frustrations out in about 7 minutes! lol. Take care. I will be in touch ...

Nov 18, 2012
nervouss breakdown
by: Wray

Hi Peg Thanks so much for filling us in. You are amazing. Of course you want him back, but at least you are getting on with life, and not sitting in a heap feeling sorry for yourself. Maybe this time apart from him, is time for you to heal. Time for him to realise his mistake. Please don't forget those nutrients I told you about to help heal your uterus. They do work and hopefully you won't ever have to have the hyst. So delighted you can spend time with your grandchildren. And the poem expresses all the frustrations so many women have! Take care Wray

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